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Communicating with your Child through Language

When I entered as a preschool teacher, I have a student before who doesn’t say any word. She is already 6 yrs old but she could not say a word clearly. When I talked to her mother, only to find out she was diagnosed that she has speech delay disabilities. It was when she was still a little girl, when her own parents don’t talk to her that often. Poor little girl because she did not develop her speech during those years. Every time I talked to her I always let her see my mouth moving, and she starts to imitate it and she even holds my mouth.

Teaching the language to the kids should be given a priority because this one will help them communicating with their peers, siblings, and family. For them to interact and socialize with other kids, and also for them to play independently with other kids.

Here are some ways to teach your child when they are:

Upset

If your child is upset and angry, just talk to them in calm way. Use simple words and phrases for them to easy understand you. Because they could not comprehend at that very moment.

Teach Correct Behavior

For parents who are successful used the language and reasoning to teach their preschooler behavior. In order for a child to know when to used it and where to apply it in the same situation. Parents should be dedicated and committed to teach how to control them selves.

Teach Good Listening Skills

Preschoolers are difficult to make them listening and if they will listen its only for the short span of time. Its not because they are hard headed or just trying to pissed you off. That is normal for their age; their brains are still developing so they can only focus on one thing. If they are playing, no matter how many times you called their name, they would not look at you. Unless they are done playing certain things.

To improve your child’s listening ability, you have to show how to be a good listener. Like if he is talking to you, put down all the things you are doing and listened to him. Make an eye to eye contact. And remind him that’s how to be a good listener. Then once he did that to you, when you called his name you always say “thank you for being a good listener”.

Recognition and Appreciation build self esteem for your children

For years now, I have developed this attitude of good job and job well done remarks to my student and I make sure that I say it with all my heart and with all smiles. To my students, every time I say that, they would smile and boost up to their class mates that they have done a good job. I have noticed it, for a little appreciation and recognition from you that you given to your children. They would feel the confidence and that is the way to develop their self – esteem. Once children have developed the self – esteem in him, he would no longer have the fear to mingle and socialize with other kids.

I also applied that to my son who is 10 years old now; well he is no longer a child. But still he needs to developed his self – esteem because he is ready to mingle and have set of friends. For him not to be aloof and alone in the school nor shy away in participating in the class. I give a 100 % appreciation to my son, sometimes I am giving him a reward but its not money. It a little thing, like for example: he will have another 30 minutes in the computer or another 30 minutes in the TV or maybe 30 minutes to play with his toys or playmates. Then if I have money, I would tell him that we will buy his favorite ice cream or cake. In that little way, I would make him feel that if he does good, he will have this. In the long run, I would like him to do good always and make it a habit not just because of the reward that he is getting but he will turn this into a habit of doing good.