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Importance of Language in the Early Years

In the early years of a child, they try to communicate us by crying, laughing and cooing. That’s their way to express what they want. By keep on listening to the sound of their parents they start to imitate the sound and start to develop some words. In the preschool years, they have acquired some words and even knows how to used it and when to used it.

On this stage some kids, would still cry if they want something. Instead of tolerating them not to talk what they want, try to convince them to say what they want. Don’t let them get used of crying if they need something. Because that behavior is only for infants not for preschool kids.

By 1 yr old, it’s a good practice to let your child practice some easy words. Like Mommy, Daddy, or pee or milk. Any word that has easy syllable, so that they will use this words instead of crying or whining. Some words where not uttered correctly that is good, but correct him/her more often so that he/she will learn the correct pronunciation. The purpose of this learning is for your child to stop crying and whining if they want something, but learn to use those words that you have introduce to them.

Recognition and Appreciation build self esteem for your children

For years now, I have developed this attitude of good job and job well done remarks to my student and I make sure that I say it with all my heart and with all smiles. To my students, every time I say that, they would smile and boost up to their class mates that they have done a good job. I have noticed it, for a little appreciation and recognition from you that you given to your children. They would feel the confidence and that is the way to develop their self – esteem. Once children have developed the self – esteem in him, he would no longer have the fear to mingle and socialize with other kids.

I also applied that to my son who is 10 years old now; well he is no longer a child. But still he needs to developed his self – esteem because he is ready to mingle and have set of friends. For him not to be aloof and alone in the school nor shy away in participating in the class. I give a 100 % appreciation to my son, sometimes I am giving him a reward but its not money. It a little thing, like for example: he will have another 30 minutes in the computer or another 30 minutes in the TV or maybe 30 minutes to play with his toys or playmates. Then if I have money, I would tell him that we will buy his favorite ice cream or cake. In that little way, I would make him feel that if he does good, he will have this. In the long run, I would like him to do good always and make it a habit not just because of the reward that he is getting but he will turn this into a habit of doing good.

Learning the Parenting Behavior

Before dwelling so much into parenting I would like also to add here, on how we learn to be a parent. Where did we get the learning to be a parent? There are a lot of books that tells so much about parenting and family and magazine that will lead you the in and out of parenting.

As far as I know, we tend to parent the way we were parented. We are most likely the same with our parents if we are not aware of this. But if we are fully aware we apt to choose methods that we like to apply, then we just ignore things that we do not like to use. This is very critical, for you become aware about your parenting styles; we sometimes need someone to tell us about it.

Then we can learn by watching other parents and talking with friends about their experiences. From them you can learn something new and you can choose to apply it, it may not be effective as it is effective to others but at least you will have an idea you will just give it some twist to make it more effective for your children.

We can also learn by doing the trial and error, this is the most common thing happen as a first time parent. Just like me, I tend to do trial and error when I gave birth to my son. Its fun but its rewarding sometimes and always remembers what is the effective way for your children. Always remember this being a parent there is no perfect strategies you may combine with other styles and strategies but 1 strategy alone is not enough.

What shall the Parents do of a Preschooler?

 At this stage of a Preschooler, parents are the most important person for them. It’s only the parents who can understand their demands and sometimes tolerate their misbehavior. However what a parent can do with their preschooler is for them to understand that discipline is a teaching process. At first hand, it’s the first who teach their preschoolers about the discipline and behavior. Then from what I understand, discipline includes everything we do to teach our children with the way they think for themselves and for others. Then make a good decisions and choices.

For the parents to be effective in this way, parents should learn the way to teach, practice and reinforce any necessary rules for the good behavior, rather than announcing it to them.

Parents should always display good models to their preschoolers, because that is their basis for the good and bad then right and wrong. Parents should use manners for them to teach manners, how can they teach manners if the parents itself don’t have any manners. Then practice self – control to teach self – control. Above all, parents should remember that their kids or preschoolers trust their parents first. So just be consistent and maintain of being affectionate and appreciative to their unique world and try to see the situation in their own point of view. A little of some verbal encouragement to build motivation and self – esteem. Be proactive in correcting the misbehavior by redirecting your child to a positive replacement behaviors.

Get ready for the Preschoolers

Preschool teachers are more aware that their students appear to be self – centered, demanding, annoying, energetic, curious, and adventurous little kid. When time comes that they are disappointed (getting low scores) or frustrated (lose in the game), expect that it will turn into an emotional outburst and will cry to let out their frustration and disappointment. This is the way they test their limits and how long is your patience. Headache and stressful sometimes this is what will give us teachers, if you don’t know how to handle this. But if you are aware and know how to get rid of this then if will be less stressful for you as a teacher.

Being a parent first then a teacher it requires a wide range of personal qualities and technical skills. You need to come together your talents of a teacher, director, mediator, chef, medic, consoler, and monster destroyer. So having students between the ages of 3 yrs old and six yrs old, is more challenging tasks. We are all aware that during these ages is an stage of development that comprises the early childhood for nursery or preschool and kindergarten years. During these years they are inclined to learn their communication skills, psycho-motor and problem solving skills with social interaction with their classmates. This is critical years for the preschooler because the behaviors and attitudes that are formed during this period last a lifetime.

If I had my Child to Raise over Again

I want to share this poem coming from Diane Loomans.

 

If I had my child to raise over again,

I’d fingerpaint more and point the finger less.

I’d do less correcting and more connecting.

I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less and know to care more.

I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.

I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I’d run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I’d do more hugging and less tugging.

I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.

I’d built self –esteem first, and the house later.

I’d teach less about the love of power, and more about the power of love.

 

This is really an inspiring poem for all of us as parents to our kids. Sometimes we tend to forget what our little ones needs and we focus more on a bigger aspect of life. I really can’t blame with that, because I myself as a parents would do much more work than play with my son and its always the house that comes first to my priority.

Upon reading this poem it made me realize my mistakes and flaws. Now I want to raise my son all over again to follow some points of this poem. I guess with that I can make my son a better and good man in the future. But it’s too late; well he is no longer a pre school but becoming a teenage so I guess I need to have a different approach.